How to Overcome Perfectionism Right Now

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Ever struggle with perfectionism? Hardly finish anything because it just isn’t perfect enough in your eyes. But it also drives you crazy when something is out-of-place that you keep organized. You have your way of organizing and you need complete control over it.

But does your perfectionism stand in your way? Does it stop you from living your life, stop you from pushing yourself closer to your goals and dreams?

I know the feeling. I am also a perfectionist. I struggle with my work of writing because everything I write, I don’t think it’s good enough. So I’m constantly pushing myself to do better but I’m never satisfied with the end. I always keep pushing myself.

I schedule blog posts but I never feel great about them. I purposefully don’t look at them again because I know I’ll find faults.

And don’t get me started on how many projects and writings I’ve started but never finished because they weren’t ever good enough in my eyes.

But I’ve learned techniques along the way. From books I’ve read and podcasts I’ve listened to, I’ve been able to stop myself from my perfectionism tendencies and started showing up for myself more often. And it feels so good doing it.

Now, I want to share those techniques that I’ve learned with you so you can overcome letting perfectionism stand in your way. It’s in these 7 steps that you will find the voice to stop the perfectionism. Let’s do this.

 

 

 

 

7 Steps to Overcome Perfectionism

 

Recognize It

If you don’t know if you’re a perfectionist, you need to figure that out. Check out this site for the 11 signs that you are a perfectionist to discover if you are one. Once you know, watch yourself as you go about your day and recognize when you’re being a perfectionist. You’ll see it. Maybe it’s in the way you clean your home, raise your kids, or do your job. It should be all around you. The first step is recognizing it for what it is. Know what you’re doing so you can try to change it.

For me, I like to control things so they are done the way I want them to be done. If anyone in my family folds laundry, I’ll fold it again. If anyone does the dishes, I’ll rearrange the dishes in my dishwasher to where I want them. This isn’t good for me or my family. I’m telling them they aren’t doing a good enough job. I’m putting more work on myself by not letting my family chip in (although my kids aren’t complaining).

But I’ve recognized all of this and am constantly aware of it when I’m taking control. And I try my hardest to stop it.

 

 

 

 

Stop Listening To The Voices In Your Head

Have you ever heard yourself say or think any of these? “I can’t do this!” “I’ll never get this done!” “This looks (or sounds) terrible!” These are the voices in our minds that are on constant replay.

But we have a choice. We can listen to them and believe everything we’re hearing or we can ignore those voices and try to change the tape. Next time those ugly comments start filling up your head, tell yourself the opposite of what it’s saying. So if you’re hearing, “I can’t do this”, tell yourself, “I can do this”. We can do anything we put our minds to. Change the tape in your mind that’s on constant replay and you’ll start believing in what you’re saying.

 

 

Have Accountability To Get Work Done

Ever tell yourself you’re going to get a project done (like a small remodel in your home) but you don’t ever get around to finishing the project? Maybe it’s not good enough or maybe you gave up when things got hard.

But, if you give yourself accountability, you’ll have to pay the price if you don’t do the work. When you set this up with another person, pick a reward and a punishment for doing or not doing the work. These are extremely effective so use this to your advantage. Get the accountability when your perfectionism gets in the way of you finishing your tasks.

 

 

Set Deadlines

Sometimes, we just need to set deadlines when we’re making excuses and not doing the work. I tell myself that I need to have three blog posts written and scheduled every week so I can keep up with my posting schedule. If not, I’ll disappoint myself and my readers. But without a deadline, I would put off doing the work because I wouldn’t have a goal in mind of my posting schedule.

What task do you need to do repeatedly but have a hard time getting it done? Try setting a deadline of when it needs to get done. This can go back to the accountability piece. If you give your deadline date to your accountability partner, then you’ll have to get it done or have to admit that you didn’t do it.

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Get Rid Of The All Or Nothing Mentality

How many of us think it has to be perfect to finish it? Or else we won’t do it all. I’m guilty of this. When it comes to writing, if I don’t like what I wrote, I won’t use it for a blog post. Instead of taking the time to try and make it better, it just won’t happen.

When this happens, you need to ask yourself what’s better. Getting something done that’s okay or getting nothing done at all. Get rid of the all or nothing mentality and you’ll be so much happier with yourself as you consistently get more content published or whatever your thing is that you’re doing.

 

 

Respect And Love Yourself

It’s easy sometimes to beat ourselves down. When something goes wrong or we don’t like the work we did, most times, we’re so rotten to ourselves.

Instead, try to pursue gratitude. Be thankful for what you’re doing and what you have. Love yourself for all that you are and respect yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, no one is perfect.

 

 

Celebrate It All, The Good And The Bad

Most times, it’s usually easy for us to look at the negative when times are bad but instead of punishing yourself, figure out how to celebrate it. There are always lessons to learn within mistakes. Find what that mistake is trying to tell you. And celebrate the fact that you’re finding the good with the bad. Celebrate all the wins that you’re experiencing. Be kind to yourself.

 

 

 

Final Thoughts

Perfectionism is hard to get rid of. We want everything we do to be perfect but that’s such a hard mark to measure up to. Instead practice these 7 steps when you feel yourself slipping into your perfectionist tendencies.

Recognize it
Stop listening to your negative thoughts
Have accountability
Set deadlines
Get rid of the all or nothing mentality
Respect and love yourself
Celebrate it all

You can have a life you love that doesn’t have to focus on your perfectionism. Strive for that every day.

 

What is your biggest complaint when it comes to your perfectionism?

 

 

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